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Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800 - for 24/7 telephone counselling for young people 5-25 years
Suicide Callback Service: 1300 659 467 - for 24/7 telephone crisis support for people at-risk of suicide, carers and bereaved
MensLine Australia: 1300 78 99 78 - for 24/7 telephone and online support, information and referral services for men
Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 - for 24/7 telephone support and online chat 4pm - 10pm (AEST)
Meth Helpline : 1800 874 878 - The Meth Helpline is a free confidential telephone counselling, information and referral service for anyone concerned about their own or another person's meth use.
1800RESPECT - 1800 737 732 - 24 hour 7 days a week, confidential telephone and online support - 1800RESPECT is not only a support service for people affected by sexual assault, domestic and family violence. It is also an information and support service for family, friends, and frontline workers.
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Understanding Anger and Conflict
Anger is a valid emotion although the way we express it makes a huge difference to those around us. Ignoring it or holding anger in long-term is often not healthy either. But, poorly managed anger can hurt relationships and even cost us relationships, clients or jobs.
It is a good idea to express anger in a way that does not hurt ourselves, others or people's property.
If we do not prioritise connection with people when we feel anger we might render the relationship an 'unsafe' zone for the other/s to speak or share their point of view (out of fear of our behaviour).
NB If you are in a relationship where the other person uses aggression to get their own way and appears to enjoy the powerlessness it generates for you then it is very important that you seek the professional assistance of a trauma-informed therapist, such as Owen, who has understanding and skills to manage these dynamics and to do safety planning with you. You might find some useful pointers here.
Taking responsibility for hurt we have caused others is important however the words "I'm sorry" have little meaning to others if we do not take stock of the hurt caused to others (some tips for repairing relationships are listed here.) And unless out behavour is changed trust is normally damaged, sometimes permanently.
Initially if I prioritise connection with the other person/people I will courteously excuse myself to take 15 minutes to calm myself; e.g. "Hey I need to take care I don't say things badly right now. Please give me 15 minutes. I'll just be in the next room/taking a walk. I'll let you know if I can talk in 15 minutes." If the other person is wise they will respect this request and not follow. If 15 minutes was not enough come back and explain you need a further 15 minutes. The aim is to come back to talk calmly to arrive at an enthusiastic agreement with the other person. This strategy will only be constructive if we come back to work out an agreement; walking away to avoid talking about it again is not the aim.
Taking time to walk, pat an animal, write, listen to music, grow plants, throw stones in a pool, run or play sport hard, exercise an animal, to meditate etc can help us deal appropriately with anger. Ideally we need to understand the emotion, what triggered it, what is familiar about that type of situation from previous experiences, and make use of that understanding to look after our hurt more gently. Communicating our learning from the anger might benefit the relationship in fact. This is an example of not wasting our anger.
Owen can explain the brain-science of anger and overwhelm to you so you know how to use your mind to manage the seat of emotion in the brain. Owen can offer a more in-depth range of self-soothing strategies to improve your ability to manage big emotion and also guide you to some assertive language tools that can help get your concern across in a way that might be more warmly accepted.
Putting some thought into big emotions is an important step in getting ready to manage emotion and reactions better. These questions are worth pondering:
1. In what situations do I respond differently than I would like? (I could think of these as red flag moments for which to be alert)
2. In these situations, how can I be more proactive, instead of reactive?
3. How do I want to face this challenge the next time it arises?
4. When struggling with a situation (unpleasant task or unpleasant moment in a relationship), what don't I like?
5. Why don't I like it, specifically? What is familiar about that from a past relationship e.g. a famiy of origin member
6. What can I do about my reaction? What can I do about it that won't harm my relationship with the person?
7. Despite the negatives, what positive aspects can I identify?
8. When I feel strongly about a situation--whether positively or negatively--how might my emotions cloud my judgment? What do I find myself doing/not doing it I feel too positive in a situation? What do I find myself doing/not doing it I feel too positive in a situation?
9. What are the established facts, versus what I feel (or what someone has convinced me) is true?
10. What may I have misunderstood or could I be getting wrong?
11. How important is this to me? (How will I feel about it tomorrow? In a week? In five years?)
12. How does this relate to my general priorities and values?
13. How does this fit into the big picture?
14. How will my decision affect others I care about?
15. If I say or do this, what happens next?
16. Who is someone I trust, who could provide valuable perspective into how others see this situation? (someone who wont just agree with me)
Adapted from: http://www.inc.com/justin-bariso/81-questions-emotionally-intelligent-people-ask.html
Some wise person came up with these questions to ask when feeling hurt or angry:
"Does this need to be said?"
"Does this need to be said by me?"
"Does this need to be said by me now?"
If you think you would like support to rangle with your own anger or conflict style make contact with this service (details above right).