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Christian Counselling and Prayer is available when you may be discouraged with what you have tried, and you are willing to try some ways of shifting unhelpful thoughts, feelings, reactions and behaviour patterns through prayer or meditation.
(NOTE: you do not need to be or become a practicing Christian)
If you would like prayer for other things (e.g. health) you are welcome to request this too.
Christian Counselling and Prayer Models used include:
• Spiritually augmented Cognitive Behavioural Therapy;
• Previously trained in by two prayer ministries (the counsellor now prefers to simply pray rather than use prayer ministry models)
There is no fear in love; perfect love drives out all fear. 1 John 4:18 GNT. I'm grateful to believe in a God who can provide perfect love to replace fears.
I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for. Jeremiah 29:11 GNT
“Sometimes people get the mistaken notion that spirituality is a separate department of life, the penthouse of existence. But rightly understood, it is a vital awareness that pervades all realms of our being ... Wherever we may come alive, that is the area in which we are spiritual.”
― David Steindl-Rast
A Faith Experiment
Here's an idea to try as a faith experiment, just to see what happens.
1. Notice a painful emotion attached to just one experience e.g. a regret; a resentment; a bitterness; a wound that has anger attached to it; a fear; a repulsion; a jealousy; a self-pity reaction; a long-felt sorrow; an old guilt; a vengeful feeling (you get the idea).
2. Do a slow scan of your body to notice where it is most felt; notice the sensations you do not like feeling whilst remaining determined to stay connected with them, neither flinching nor pushing them away nor down - work out how to float through it and don't withdraw (feel-it-to-heal it is not a pleasant principle but it is important so we don't remain disconnected from emotion).
3. In at least one sentence tell God (silently in your head if you prefer) how bad it feels and how this painful emotion is so unhealthy for you to keep experiencing (venting is important and is part of the antidote to bottling up painful emotion).
4. Double check that you really believe this painful feeling is bad for you (i.e. some painful emotions like resentment can seem like it is good to hang onto - seriously, why else would we do it)?
5. Give God permission to influence (come into) the painful emotion then stop talking in your head and pay attention to the painful feeling states in your body and what might be happening to them. (be prepared to be still for a minute or two, determined to get a shift, in a posture-of-permission for God to help with the hurt). Stay in that posture until you feel your breathing ease or you feel more calm, some relief, or until it is totally gone.
6. If it did not entirely go be prepared to come back and try again in the future, or contact Owen to make an appointment to seek out some coaching through thr process.
This practice, and it does take practice, is based on an ancient scripture: Psalm 46:10 (v11 in this version) CJB - "Desist, and learn that I am God, supreme over the nations, supreme over the earth." The Hebrew word for 'desist' basically means 'let go of what ever you are hanging onto.' The word for 'learn' in the Hebrew is the word for the the most intimate knowing of a person (akin to sexual intimacy). The metaphor is about letting God 'in' to what ever we have been hanging on to that is not good for us. It would seem the ancient scripture is describing a God who loves people so deeply He wants to be allowed into our hurt, our most vulnerable wounds and fears, and our most intimate of troubles to make it better.